I read the Huffington Post article How To Talk to Little Girls by Lisa Bloom with some sense of, I don't know, maybe superiority? Well, of course you don't simply tell girls how pretty they are! Isn't this feminism 101? Etc. etc. And then I stopped and thought about it. How many times a day do I tell my daughter that she is beautiful? Do I tell my son this in equal measure? How do I react when, inevitably, everyone else in the world opens up a conversation with my daughter by telling her how pretty she is? Do I react at all?
These sorts of comments, whether one tries to avoid them or not, are knee-jerk. We all grow up in this culture where girls are prized for their beauty, and boys for their strength and smarts. We are so inundated, and it is so saturated into the cultural consciousness that we hardly notice it when it happens.
So - yes. It is feminism 101. And feminism 101 is harder than one might think.